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There’s a common stereotype about men and sex: that guys only want to have sex because it feels good – it’s not about emotions or getting closer to someone, it’s just about the end result. But the real reason why men have sex might actually surprise you.
A new study proves that men have sex for more reasons than just physical gratification. I mean, of course that’s part of it, because… I shouldn’t need to explain. But as it turns out, guys are more similar to girls than some of you may have thought. This study, taken from the book This Is Your Brain On Sex by Kayt Sukel, says that the three main reasons men and women have sex are actually exactly the same.
So why do we have sex? I think the results are pretty obvious: for love, commitment and physical gratification. However, the findings are slightly surprising because of the fact that guys have such a bad reputation when it comes to sex. Like I said above, I think a lot of girls have the idea that guys only have sex to feel good. This study shows that sometimes, guys view sex as more than just something physical – they also see it as a way to get closer to their partner.
I’m loving this study because I think it’s great to remind yourself that guys and girls aren’t always complete opposites. I mean, sure, there are some guys out there who only like sex because it gives them a great orgasm. But there are also girls out there who feel that way. I just think it’s important to keep in mind that dudes aren’t always as different from us as we might think they are. It’s unfair to judge them based on these ideas, just like it would be unfair for them to judge us like that.
Of course, this study didn’t find all similarities between men and women. One researcher points out that “men were more likely to engage in opportunistic sex and women in sympathy sex.” So, basically, men are more likely to take advantage of a situation when it comes to sex and women are more likely to do the deed because they feel guilty not doing it.
Another topic they discussed was arousal. According to this study, men get turned on by strong signals that distract him from anything else. Women, on the other hand, don’t have this strong of a sexual response due to anatomical differences. As one researcher says when it comes to a woman getting aroused, “it may be what is going on in the rest of the world that is the distraction, not the arousal itself.”
So what should you take from this? Basically, just that guys and girls aren’t always total opposites. And, like I said, that’s a good thing to keep in mind.
Why do you think guys have sex? Why do you have sex with your partner? What do you think about this study? Tell us in the comments.